Why I Don't Believe In The One

Most people who know me would have a hard time accepting that I don't believe in some foolish romantic concept of "the one." First, I'm a virgin. If I'm waiting for marriage, I have to believe in the one, right? Wrong. Second, I'm Catholic, so I believe God has this planned out for me, right? Sure, I believe God will bring me someone good, someone who it work out with. That's not what I mean about not believing in the one. Besides, humans have free will. God isn't forcing anything on anyone. Third, I've been engaged, so I have to believe that there is a soulmate out there for me, right? My engagement was a mistake that I made years ago. I'm not looking for a soulmate. I already have two best friends who are my soulmates. I don't need someone to complete me.
So what do I believe in? I believe in friendship. I believe in loving someone else deeply as a human being. I believe in love. Being in love often seems to be nothing more than an illusion. Will I ever fall in love again? Probably time and time again. I've only really loved once, though, and I only want to experience that type of love once more, if ever-if I'm even capable of experiencing it again. I'm more cynical after that experience than I was before, and that's saying something. I was as cynical as I thought I could get back then. I rolled my eyes at Valentine's Day. I challenged fate to bring someone along who I would finally love. I thought it was impossible, but it happened. I'm not so stupid now. I have no interest in challenging fate. I know where that gets me.
I just can't believe in this idea of a romantic soulmate. I can't believe in "the one." I've been so wrapped up in guys in the past that I thought they were "the one." Now I'm older, a little more experienced, and a lot more disillusioned. Some part of me knew these guys were not guys I would spend my life with. I was right. I couldn't. They were guys I needed out of my life. What's the big deal about "the one," anyway? Relationships based on infatuation fall apart after that passes, so let's go into them knowing they are just for now. Let's not fool ourselves.